Problems with being apart in a long distance relationship

In our relationship we have had to spend many periods apart, sometimes for a few weeks and sometimes for a few months. We can say it is never easy and is a major cause of stress in a long distance relationship so we want to share some of our thoughts so you know you are not alone with the way you might be feeling.

We all know don’t we that life is full of challenges for much of the time, sometimes good and sometimes not so good, this is just part of life’s rich tapestry. Work pressures, financial difficulties, or family issues are all things we have to deal with on a day to day basis.

What we have found is that when we are together all of these challenges of life seem so much easier to cope with, but when we are apart these things can easily get the better of us and we feel it is more difficult to deal with these pressures of life.

In fact, and we don’t mean to scare you but to be very honest when times are difficult being

apart can begin to develop feelings of desperation

What we need to remember is that as humans we all ultimately need some for of physical contact with the one we love. We don’t mean just about sex here but just everyday contact. A loving hug, a kiss or even just small touches while doing everyday things like relaxing, watching TV or a movie or simply holding hands when out can mean so much and you don’t realize how important they are until you don’t have them.

When you think about it we were not really designed to live life on the end of a telephone or on skype. Even though humans have had to endure times apart from loved ones from very early times such as when men had to leave the cave to hunt for food, or later to go to war or go to work, there has always been the need to return to each other and physical contact.

It’s easy for doubt to creep in to your mind when you are apart

One of the long distance relationship problems is that doubt can creep into your mind so easily because you do not always feel you are sharing life together. It’s amazing really because we both say that we only have problems when we are apart and really we don’t actually have any problem at all with each other or our relationship it is just being apart that places a strain on our relationship.

It sounds crazy really because we are both so much in love but when you don’t know where the other one is the mind can go a bit crazy, where is he, is she allright, who is he with and what is she doing?  All these questions can begin to race through your mind and cause fear, doubt and worry and usually it is all complete nonsense and unfounded, but nevertheless it is there and it can make life very difficult at times.

Does this mean you should not have a long distance relationship?

Well in our opinion we would say absolutely not but it will depend a little on what type of person you are, what your expectations are and how committed you both are to make it work. Of course “Love” is the all important ingredient that will keep you together and get you through the tough times and trust us you will have them.

On the positive side when you endure times apart then getting together again is the most wonderful and joyful experience and in a funny way it can also re-affirm your love for each other in a very deep and touching way. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder but be careful because it can also make it grow apart.

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